How to Decide What Financial Independence Looks Like for You

Why You've Got to Listen to This Episode...

In today’s episode, I’m talking with Liz Thames who is the creator of the award-winning personal finance blog, Frugalwoods, and author of the book Meet The Frugalwoods: Achieving Financial Independence Through Simple Living. At just 32 years old, Liz reached financial independence and left her successful career in Boston to live a more purpose-driven life on a 66-acre homestead in the woods of Vermont. We’re talking about what financial freedom means to Liz, her journey from non-profit fundraiser to homesteader, and how her life changed as she pursued and achieved FIRE.

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Key Takeaways That You Can Think About As You Consider Your Own Financial Freedom Journey

As always, we’ve rounded up our top three takeaways to summarize what we believe are the core points to remember from Liz.

1 - You Have to Decide What Your Definition of Success & Fulfillment Is

This has to be our first takeaway because it’s so crucial.

Liz and her husband lived in different cities, tried different levels of spending, different ways to find fulfillment. But for a long time, they were caught on the path of what they thought they were supposed to do—who they were supposed to be.

And getting out of that mental place isn’t always easy, especially when you’re trying to do it from the middle of your normal day. I love how Liz mentioned that she and her husband really needed to get out in the woods, away from what used to be their day-to-day, to find clarity and have big conversations.

Maybe you start to find the space to think about what success means to you on regular walks (in the woods or just at your local park.) Maybe you develop a meditation practice like Glennon Doyle did in her closet at home. Maybe you go for a long drive with your partner.

Whatever it is, you need to start finding at least the glimmers of what matters to you and the type of life you want. And start working towards that. Because if you keep trying to find fulfillment in someone else’s life structure, you’re just going to get stuck in a frustration loop.

Not to mention, changing your money habits will be a heck of a lot easier when you’re moving towards a definition of success that holds value for you.

2 - Experimental Spending Can Help You Find the Right Level of Frugal - or Not Frugal - That Works for You

Liz and her husband sped up their financial independence journey by drastically cutting their expenses—DIYing anything they could, getting furniture from the side of the road, and generally being thrifty.

Yet, just jumping to that lifestyle is (a) likely to feel really uncomfortable at first and (b) isn’t for everyone. Remember how you have to find your own definition of success? You have to find your own level of spending that works for you too.

I really appreciated Liz’s suggestion of testing a week or month when you spend freely and weeks or months when you’re super frugal. And taking good notes. Which expenses were worth it to you? When were you overall happier? When did you feel closer to your partner and kids?

It’s money science. You have to test different scenarios to find what works.

There is no perfect, right way to budget or spend your money. Let yourself do the trial and error to figure out what you value and how you want to best use your money.

3 - Financial Independence Isn’t All or Nothing

Sometimes people hear about the idea of FIRE and write it off as some crazy thing only very few can achieve. And in the most literal way it’s often portrayed—someone saving 70% of their income and retiring in their 30s—that’s true.

Pursuing FIRE is more than that version of the story.

You’re still retiring early if you stop working at 55 or 60 instead of 65 or 70.

You’re benefiting from financial independence if you can build up a big enough cash cushion to speak up when something unjust is happening at work or when you can walk away from a job with a toxic boss or schedule, without another job lined up yet. Or to start a business!

Or simply the freedom and independence to go through your day not wondering how you’re going to make ends meet.

Whether your goal is to retire to a rural homestead like Liz or you simply want money to have less control over your life, pursuing financial independence is a worthy goal that can bring you more peace.

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Connect with Liz

Elizabeth Willard Thames, better known as Mrs. Frugalwoods, is the creator of the award-winning personal finance blog, Frugalwoods.com and author of the book, Meet The Frugalwoods: Achieving Financial Independence Through Simple Living. In 2016, at age 32, she reached financial independence and left a successful career in Boston to create a more meaningful, purpose-driven life on a 66-acre homestead in the woods of Vermont with her husband and their two young daughters. Thames has been featured on The Today Show, PBS, NPR, in the New York Times, Forbes, Parents Magazine, and more.

Prior to following her calling as a writer and homesteader, she worked for ten years in the non-profit sector as a fundraiser and communications manager. Thames received a BA from the University of Kansas and an MA from American University.

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1 thought on “How to Decide What Financial Independence Looks Like for You”

  1. FI is definitely about having more options. And you make great points about figuring out what expenditures and lifestyles make you most happy, and which are just a waste.

    Chickens are easy and you’ll never want for eggs again. The initial setup you need for chickens is the biggest effort. You need a coop for them to stay at night so they are safe from predators, with laying boxes so they can safely lay eggs without their lady friends pecking their backsides (gross, but it happens). I accumulated scrap wood and bought chicken wire, and built a simple coop/shelter with fenced enclosure for the ‘girls’ for night time living, and turned them loose during the day to wander the yard and field to forage on whatever they liked. I didn’t even have a fence in my yard for them. If you feed them in their enclosure in the evenings before dark they are easily trained to start heading there at that time. Choose a type(s) of chicken that is known for decent egg laying, and you can have fun and get several types so you have different colored eggs. And you don’t need a rooster. Don’t believe they only crow at dawn!

    If you do get a cow be sure to get chickens; the birds will scatter the cow poop, which helps cut down on flies. But do know that having cows means you will have flies.

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